FRIENDSHIP SCANDALS (Vol. 4)



'Friendship scandals' is back! Here comes volume 4.


'IT WAS MY FAULT'

After this recent experience, it was evident I had learnt a great deal. I screwed things up big time.

Tinuke was more than just a friend to me. We were in the sane department and moved together virtually everytime. Everyone took us as a clique. We had met two months ago during our course registrations where I offered to help her with the arrangement of the required documents. We had now grown fond of each other. We made out time to joke, talk, play and study together sometimes. Little did I know that it wasn't going to last for long and the annoying thing remains the fact that I was responsible!




 All my courses seemed pretty cool to me except for one which was Mathematics 121. It also gave Tinuke problems but I felt with time I was going to understand it (I procrastinated learning). I eventually paid the price for this.

Tinuke had approached me on two occasions to explain certain topics in the course but I couldn't. She took the bold and progressive step ahead of me  to meet Dave, the bookie in my department who she felt would be able to explain to her. Dave was always ready to help explain things to his peers, so it was easy for Tinuke to approach him but I felt 'how could I approach Dave for explanations'. This was the continuation of my self-inflicted problem 'pride'.



I began to get 'unnecessarily' jealous seeing Tinuke and Dave at the department studying together even when she still created normal time for our usual jokes, talk, play and study. I felt uncomfortable. Instead of taking it as a challenge to meet my seniors to put me through the topics and in turn explain to Tinuke, I sort for how to split their connection. It was an unwise and a very foolish step!

I began to accuse Tinuke of being a bad friend telling her I no longer trusted her affairs with Dave (hoping she was going to feel emotional and break the connection).

 As if that wasn't enough, I began to compare her with other female course mates. This was something she detested having warned me about it on a particular occasion but this time I failed to listen and the table turned!

Tinuke got fed up with my 'unexpected' attitude of distrust and jealousy and guess what she did? She gave me enough space and some distance!




JEALOUSY & DISTRUST.



Jealousy and distrust only end up ruining bright friendships. Keep them far away from you if you want yours to thrive.



Also, take up  challenges (good and positive) aimed at strengthening your friendship. Johnson failed to do that!




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